*Another Facebook note I wrote September 9th.*
After an early morning emo Twitter session and lots of personal blogging, I discovered a site full of quotes from books and movies. Sure, it’s right up my emo alley and a little of it stung when I read them…but there is something really refreshing about gaining, losing, and then gaining love (especially for yourself) all over again. Check out my Tweets to get an idea where I was this AM:
@dlc123 Loving some1 shldnt include sacrificing your ideals. Engage only in relationships tht promote true balance. If 1 thing is off, fix it.
@dlc123 begin anew in Love. Love shld replenish, not hinder. Love shld inspire, not oppress. if u cnt envision freedom within, be w/out.
@dlc123 Love isn’t predicated on bouncing it off another. Save all for your self. Love is a high form of understanding. Do you understand yourself?
@dlc123 & in closing, i wish that all of u find the love u need shld it be an elusive thing. but dnt chase it. its right where u need it to be.
I wanted to share some of my favorite quotes from that quote site below:
Every relationship is fundamentally a power struggle, and the individual in power is whoever likes the other person less. — Chuck Klosterman, Sex, Drugs, and Cocoa Puffs: A Low Culture Manifesto (good book!)
Isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more? — Celine from Before Sunrise
If I loved you…then I would love you in any way I could, and if we could not touch, then I would draw strength from your beauty… And if I went blind, I would fill my soul with the sound of your voice and the contents of your thoughts until the last spark of my love for you lit the shabby darkness of my dying mind… — Alfredo, Pushing Daisies (great show!)
There is no such thing as the one. It’s more of a mind boggling whole hell of a lot of potential ones. That should be comforting, it’s actually pretty terrifying. We would all like to kick back and wait for some magical force to show us who we should spend the rest of our lives with. But the truth is, there isn’t a lightning bolt that slaps you on the ass and tells you to pick this person over all others. It’s like the rain, rain falls all the time. Sometimes we are prepared for it, sometimes we’re not. And depending where you are when it hits, you either get caught in it, or you don’t. In fact, most of us try like hell to avoid it. — David Collins, Buying The Cow (perhaps my favorite one)
What a terrible mistake to let go of something wonderful for something real. — Miranda July
It’s a funny thing about the modern world. You hear girls in the toilets of clubs saying, ‘Yeah, he fucked off and left me. He didn’t love me. He just couldn’t deal with love. He was too fucked up to know how to love me.’ Now, how did that happen? What was it about this unlovable century that convinced us we were, despite everything, eminently lovable as a people, as a species? What made us think that anyone who fails to love us is damaged, lacking, malfunctioning in some way? And particularly if they replace us with a god, or a weeping madonna, or the face of Christ in a ciabatta roll—then we call them crazy. Deluded. Regressive. We are so convinced of the goodness of ourselves, and the goodness of our love, we cannot bear to believe that there might be something more worthy of love than us, more worthy of worship. Greeting cards routinely tell us everybody deserves love. No. Everybody deserves clean water. Not everybody deserves love all the time. — Zadie Smith (another fave)
We like someone because. We love someone although. — Henri De Montherlan
I’ve always believed that life is divided into two parts: what is and what should be. And that, with a lot of effort, some hard work, and maybe a little luck, there are moments in your life when the two parts touch. When what is and what should be are the same. — Ed Stevens, Ed
I laughed and said, ‘Life is easy”. What I meant was, Life is easy with you here, and when you leave, it will be hard again’. — Miranda July
I know that love is unconditional but I also know that it can be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable, and strangely easy to mistake for loathing. — Stardust
I just wish I could start a relationship about twelve years in, when you really don’t have to try anymore, and you can just sit around together and just goof on TV shows and then go to bed without anybody trying any funny business. – Liz Lemon, 30 Rock (amen!)
You know what’s the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you? Is when you remember how little you thought about the people you broke up with and you realize that is how little they’re thinking of you. You know, you’d like to think you’re both in all this pain but they’re just like ‘Hey, I’m glad you’re gone’. — Jesse, Before Sunrise (ouch…but true)
Anyway, this note is long enough as is. And no, I ain’t talkin to nobody in pah-tick-ew-lah (c) Jay-Z. Just my thoughts on a rainy Wednesday morning.